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Eyes that see the good in things: Feb. 10, 2020


February 10, 2020

Babies and jobs don’t always mix very well as I found out last week. As an accountant, the fiscal year-end and audit is always a busy time of year for my daughter. This year is a little different with a 9-month old in the mix. She knew she was going to be working longer hours than normal and her husband was going to be picking up some of the things that she normally did.

It was all worked out. Then, he came home from work with news that he had been scheduled to leave for a two-week trip for work at the very time that the auditors would be at her workplace. She said she would make it work but then, the baby got sick. Just a cold, but sick enough that he had to be out of daycare.

His mom stayed with him the first day and I got to go spend a couple of days all alone with my grandson. I have to confess that I was a little apprehensive because that little boy really likes his mama and hasn’t been all that fond of me. So, I was a little worried that I was not going to be able to console this sick little boy.

However, I am happy to report that the two of us did okay. Apparently, he thinks I’m acceptable when there is no other choice. Unfortunately, he didn’t want to sit with me much the first day but was happy playing on the floor and even took his nap on the floor.

He warmed up to me once I started singing silly songs with actions. The itsy-bitsy spider did a lot of climbing that day and he liked watching the little teapot pour itself out. We also talked—a lot. He is at the stage where he enjoys listening to the noises that he makes, and he loves it when people talk back to him.

Of course, I had to take pictures and video. When I played the video back to him, it was almost like you could see what he was thinking. His lips moved silently as he formed his mouth to make the same kinds of noises that the baby on the screen was doing. Then he would look at me and smile.

The next day we were a little more comfortable together, even though he was more fussy. At one point, he was tired, unhappy and I was unsure how I was going to get him to go to sleep. Then I remembered his love of screens. Something his mom does not want to encourage. Nonetheless, I pulled out my tablet and clicked on Candy Crush Saga, a game I sometimes play when I’m waiting for the oil to get changed on my car. He watched the flashing lights and loved the loud noises it made as he hit at that screen. It worked and he fell asleep! Then, this Grandma got to cuddle a sleeping baby for a few hours.

As I sat there, I thought about the relationships that I had with my grandparents and the relationships between my kids and their grandparents. We were lucky because we all have great memories with our grandparents, and I resolved to make sure that my grandkids also have good times with me that they can lock away in their memories and maybe learn something from me along the way.

Dr. Norman Vincent Peale’s granddaughter, Katie Allen Berlandi wrote about the favorite lessons that she learned from her grandparents in an article for “Guideposts.” Her grandparents made certain that their family knew how important they thought it was to spend time together as a family because it is through that time that connection and memories can be made. One of the ways that her grandparents were able to do that was to travel together as much as they could. Some of the trips were adventurous but she said that all of the trips held hilarious, precious and unforgettable memories.

Some of the best lessons that she learned from her grandparents were about faith. “Grandma and Grandpa’s faith was real. It was vast. It was challenged and it triumphed every time,” wrote Berlandi. They were able to show their grandchildren, by example, about the power of showing people grace and love and in staying humble. Berlandi writes that her grandparents were a team. They loved each other first and were very humbled by the blessing that they had been able to be a part of in so many people’s lives. She stresses that their work was never about them but because they wanted others to be able to see themselves as valuable and loved.

“One of the realizations I had as I hit my teens was the amount of time Grandma and Grandpa spent on airplanes each and every week, visiting multiple cities, making speaking engagements, said Berlandi. “During those weeks, they were writing, thinking, innovating, planning and connecting with others. And then the weekends would come, and Grandpa would write his sermons and preach at Marble Collegiate Church on Fifth Avenue in New York City. Truly amazing.”

Her grandma and grandpa found peace in nature, driving on country roads surrounding their home and sitting on their property enjoying the fresh air, and the lushness of their ancient trees. They showed their grandchildren how to be present and quiet in, and appreciative of our natural world.

Her grandparents naturally felt the desire to give back to their community, which she says for them, was an extension of their love of God. They were thoughtful and intentional about their giving, which she says was a mixture of giving back and paying it forward. Their granddaughter says that their gifts continue to impact lives as a result.

“Taking care of and being close with family was so important to my grandparents, I have to mention it again,” Berlandi stressed. “No matter how far they traveled or how many lives they touched, making time for family was always a priority and something I’ll never forget.”

It would be awesome if, one day down the road, my grandchildren can say that they learned some of those kinds of lessons from me. I’m going to make it a priority.

We would love to share local stories about the good things your eyes are seeing.

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